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We didn't get along that well before this so why would all of a sudden we start. When I found out from my aunt that mom and dad were both in the hospital and after release they couldn't be on their own anymore I thought ok time to circle the sibling wagons and work this all out together. I called and left messages with brother & sister. Sister ignored the parents for a month and a half. She's going through a midlife crisis of possession shedding,pet abandonning, job quitting, wanting to live on a commune and not dealing with the her whole alcoholic thing. Brother wants complete control over healthcare and financial matters and being the oldest son golden boy he got it.

I wanted brother to stop sniping at me and told him he's not superior. This was like waving a red flag and yelling stampede and he goes on to list the vastness of how he is indeed superior and wants not to email or phone ever.

I wanted sister to call. Let's bury the hatchet. Let's trade olive branches. This isn't about us can we focus on mom & dad? No, apparently not. Pun intended. Sister doesn't want to talk yet now she's texting come to kansas come to kansas when I can't come to kansas. I can't afford to come to kansas. She's there now with mom. Mom says she is annoyed with sister just hanging out there all day but great she's there. Now would it be so mad cap for her to call me? Brother doesn't share tidbits the doctor tells him so could sister talk to me about mom? Could we put aside foolishness and talk to each other? No, I guess not.

I'm told by someone at the Kansas Dept of Aging that this isn't uncommon for siblings to fall apart, bring up old battles and row with each other when the parents get old and sick. And mom in her younger healthier days seemed to thrive on pitting one against the other.

All I can do is call mom & dad and tell them I love them. And I can pray. I can pray for them and peace and loving kindness for all and thank god that I'm not an atheist because I don't know what I'd do then.